Thursday, October 31, 2013

it's up to me


I used to talk about Eric allllll the time on this blog. I was obsessed with him and our marriage! But ever since we had Mia (who we both are obsessed with) the focus of my topics have shifted, obviously (which I'm sure Eric doesn't mind because that means I don't take AS many pictures of him ;) ha)! But I've been thinking about this a lot lately... does the obsession I have with my daughter take away from the obsession I had with my husband?? The conclusion I came to is this, I don't really know. But I do know that I don't want it to!
Marriage is a tricky thing. Throw a baby in the mix and I don't even know what word to use to describe marriage. More than tricky, that's for sure! Any major change can throw a wrench in the relationship. I shared some recent struggles I (we) had here, and how I (we) overcame them here. I've been thinking a lot about our marriage lately and the good place we are in... I LOVE being married! I love that Eric is mine and I am his for eternity. I don't ever want to stop fighting to make us happier, because it's just worth it. The hard work is just. plain. worth it!
The other day I read this article and it really made me stop and think. I'm stealing this quote from the article: "It's not a spouse, or land, or a job, or money that brings us happiness. Those achievements, those relationships, can enhance our happiness, yes, but happiness has to start from within. Relying on any other equation can be lethal." This was a very real reminder that my personal happiness is just as important as any others happiness! Obviously I already knew this, but it just kind of hit me upside the head when I read that! To be a better wife, a better mom, a better friend, etc, I need to continually work on being a better me!
I really want that happiness that is contagious! I want people to want to be around me because of my happiness! I want my marriage to thrive because of my (our) happiness! Basically I'm just rambling here... but I want my life to be better because I work on my happiness in every aspect, spiritually, mentally and physically. That really is most important! And everything else will benefit. Funny how something so simple, knowledge I already had, can be so profound when I realize (once again) that the answer is so plain and obvious! I don't really know if this is making sense? But I just want to throw it out there that I promise to be a better, happier me (because like I said, I need the reminder! Even when life is going so good, but maybe those are the times I need the reminder most)! The end.
P.S. Happy Halloween!!
P.P.S. Red Sox Naaaaaaaaaaation. You better believe that Eric already bought out the World Series memorabilia in his size! Okay, only a hat and a shirt. But if he could afford it, he would have bought it all. THAT'S how happy he is right now ;)

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21 comments:

Kimberly said...

I was thinking of writing a post very similar to this! My sister recently broke up with her boyfriend and she and I were talking about falling in love. Having a baby changes things and you have to work and adapt to fall back into love (at least I did!) and if you think love is something that happens to you, you're probably going to be disappointed. But love is something you need to work for and choose every day!

Dee Stephens said...

Good post. We are in the same boat. Takes work!

Julie said...

Even though I'm a Cardinals fan, I will congratulate Red Sox Nation for a series well played :)

Laurie @ Disney 'n Diapers said...

I totally get where you are coming from on this, I guess Nick and I have just always been used to having kids (since we were only together 1 year before them!) so I don't really see a difference at all in our marriage. My advice? Just make sure you make time for each other, Nick and I make it a point to drink a little something every night before bed and talk about our day(not wine because we hate it! lol) Sometimes those intimate moments are all you need:)

Pamela said...

Love this! We don't have a kid (obviously, ha!), but yes marriage is oh so tricky!! Def A LOT of work!! SO WORTH IT!

hello erin said...

I love this! Especially the part about being happy-from within and making people want to be around you! It's totally true- and I have yet to find an awesome balance between husband and babe. Babe ALWAYS wins!

Fran @ Sassy Southern Bride said...

This is a great post! I really relate to happiness coming from within.

Jessie said...

You ARE a happy person and it IS contagious. I can just feel it through your words. :) Happy Halloween! And best wishes to becoming our best selves. I know I'm thinking/doing about it every day.

Katie said...

i definitely agree - we are still working on the huge adjustment adding a baby to our marriage! It definitely takes a little more work (or maybe a lot more work) but totally worth it!

Nichole said...

Everything you said is SO true! I agree so much :) I'm from Tampa and was sad our Rays didn't get to the playoffs but glad your team won!

Sky-Ann @ The Little Button said...

Great post. This is so true. You can not rely or make it someone else responsibility for our happiness. This is something I strive to do as well.

Marriage does take a lot of work and I love to read post like this one...I will keep this in mind once our little one arrives.

Katie Nay said...

Love this! Hey I'm thinking about moving to Cedar City or St. George next fall! If I do that, we should definitely get together for lunch every now and then!

Courtney said...

Great post! Having Aria threw a wrench in our marriage and it took until just recently to find a new balance. It is always nice to remember that you have to be a better you to be a better partner in any relationship. I love when you said you want ppl to be around you because you are happy - me too! Contagious happiness is the best =)

Happy Halloween!

Brittany said...

Such a great post! I often forget to take care of myself first, but it's totally true. Bettering yourself betters everything you touch.

Andrea said...

Gosh, so true. I think back to when we were newlyweds and how we were so in lovey dovey and did all sorts of fun adventures whenever we felt like it. I think you have no idea what a game changer bringing a baby into the mix will be and it is so important to give your husband your undivided attention and love, too.

Kirsty and Seth said...

Thanks for this post, it's so true! I often think that I really do need to become a better Mum and wife and to do that I really need to work on myself in general. I'm definitely a work in progress :)

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Linzi Scarsella said...

I think so many can relate to this post. Never forget who you were when you fell in love and got married. Be that person for each other When you have little ones its harder, I know! No one is perfect and its good to remember that. Just be grateful <3

Katie said...

This is so true but at the same time you can't always worry about being more happy. It has to come natural otherwise is it really happiness that you are feeling?! Its something I think everyone strives to be better with though.
And we all know you are still obsessed with your husband :) we still see pics of him and hear stories about him. Now they are family stories instead of just the two of you.
Smile girl! You have a beautiful family that is happiness right there!

Sarah Alway said...

Love this post. Honestly I've been thinking a lot about how having a baby will change our marriage. I know that it will, and I just hope that it's for the better!

Sarah @ Life As Always

Janna Renee said...

I totally agree! You have to take care of yourself and your happiness to be able to share the happiness with others! I think you guys are doing AMAZING, and I can still see the love ;) You know you guys are one of my favorite couples <3

Court said...

All i have to say is i hate how good you guys ALWAYS look ;)

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