nap 1 with no binky... passed out for 4 hours
Well, it's official! The binky is long gone! I am so happy to say that it was easier than I ever thought it would be, parting with the beloved/hated bink! Mia really, REALLY loved that thing, but she only had it when she slept... or in the car. The car was what did me in, Mia would scream for her "gingy" before we were even finished buckling her in the car seat. It was absolutely ridiculous that she had to have it the second we were in the car, and if she ever lost it while driving? Oh my gosh, she lost her mind over it! As much as she loved her bink, and even though it brought her so much comfort and happiness, I was over it (at least the car part)!
I seriously prepped for the moment we took away the binky as if we were going to war, ha ha! I made a game plan (which was to stop bringing binky's in the car and wean her cold turkey, and while she slept I was going to sneak into her room and take it out as soon as she fell asleep, so that if she woke up and looked for it, she would have to learn to cope and put herself back to sleep... hopefully making it easier for when we took it away for good. After a week of taking the bink out after she fell asleep, I would snip the end of the bink and hopefully she would just lose interest on her own. If not? Then we were tossing it and going to have to deal with the tears.) and set a time line because we had some travels in October/November that we had to survive before taking it away.
We totally stopped giving her the bink cold turkey in the car, which was rough, but we tried to keep her busy with books. Occasionly she got a treat or watched a show on my phone, but I really didn't want to give up one "crutch" just to have her get hooked on another... so we read lots of books and made lots of animal sounds to distract her on drives :)
As I was putting Mia to bed on Halloween night, I noticed just how tired she was so I thought, "what the heck?!" and didn't give her the binky when I tucked her in. She asked for it with a sweet smile on her face, I told her "night night!" and walked out of her room. She instantly fell asleep without a peep. WHAT THE?! Like, whoa! That was way too easy! But maybe it really could be that easy? Yeah right! The next day she wouldn't even lay down for her nap until I gave her the bink, and that night she searched her crib crying, until she found it hidden under her pillow. But then the next day was the dreaded time change and with the mix of that and church, Mia didn't really nap and had a rough day. So being the genius that I am, I figured this was the best time to spring another change on her! I didn't give her the bink that night and like Halloween, she instantly fell asleep without a peep.
I've heard that it's best to just get rid of the binky all together, but I needed Mia to keep napping with the trips we had planned in early November. So I gave her the binky at nap time, but she went to sleep at night without it! There were 2 nights of crying (for less than 5 minutes) but after that she never cried again. For a week or two she would ask for it, we would say, "remember? we don't have a binky. it's all gone!" She would pout for a minute but never cry.
After a weekend away (where she did amazing without the binky!!) I decided it was time to ditch the bink during nap times... we had about a week and a half until Thanksgiving and I wanted it gone by then! I told Mia it was time for a nap, she happily asked for her bink, I told her it was gone, she pouted, I laid her down and left her room, she cried for like 2 minutes.... then slept for FOUR hours!! Yeah, that blew my mind! The next day I reminded her that the bink was gone before her nap and we had no problems! I think she completely stopped asking for the bink (before bed OR in the car) just two days after that.
So yes, I turned it into a long, drawn out process, but I think that was more for my sanity (and our travels) than for Mia... but she did SO great! I was expecting her to stop sleeping for at least a week (or forever?) but she still keeps her normal sleep schedule and she is just as happy without the binky! SUCCESS!!
nap 2 with no binky