Thursday, August 25, 2011

our not so perfect marriage...

I was having a conversation with one of my bestie's about marriage the other day.  I have received some comments/emails about how "cute" me and Eric are, or how they bet we rarely (if ever) fight, or how much fun we have together.  I even received a message from a friend saying she was jealous of our relationship (or the relationship she saw on the blog or facebook).  Since the marriage talk I had with my friend a couple days ago, I've really been evaluating my relationship with Eric.  We love hard, play harder, and sometimes we fight the hardest.  Our marriage is not always cute or fun.  But we know we can and will make it through our hard times.  A little look into what our relationship is like...

Life is crazy busy right now, in a good way.
But sometimes at the end of the day we are tired and irritable. 
Sometimes we're so done with trying to please others and be nice to everyone we talk to that we forget to be nice to each other. 
Sometimes we really hurt each other's feelings.
We are on the defensive with each other way too often.  :(

Most of the time we play, play, play.
We love to be silly with each other.
Eric will grab me and start dancing, it doesn't matter if we're in public or in our home.
Sometimes when I'm working out of town and we're talking on the phone, he'll fart into the phone because he's "worried" I'm missing that. (What in the h.e.double-hockey sticks??)

I like to "pants" Eric every chance I get- haha.  (Ok, so we're a dorky couple with a few gross quirks- ha!)
We love to watch Disney movies and play with kid toys.

But most importantly we love each other all.the.time.
Sometimes when we snuggle we hang on for dear life, because we don't want to let each other go.
Other times I can't stop kissing him :)
The words I love you are used the most in our home.

Sometimes its easier to remember the reasons why Eric made me cry, over the reason's he made me fall in love.  (And visa-versa for him, I assure you.  I can be quite the selfish brat.)  Sometimes it's easier to stay mad, then to forgive and forget.  But I just have to say, life will always be easier with Eric by my side.  I love that man so much....so much that my heart could burst.  I know that's cheesy, but it is so true.  Each day we're learning more and more about being married to one another, and one day I think we'll have it all figured out.  Until then... a few more tears will be shed, a lot more laughter will be heard, and our love will grow forever.
And hopefully we'll produce some good lookin' children along the way ;)

42 comments:

Pamela said...

I love this!! All of it is so very true. Sometimes it is easier to remember the bad times, than the good. Wish it weren't like that! Guess that is up to us but those hard times def can/will make us stronger. Marriage def isn't easy! I went from living with my mom, doing what I wanted, having things where I wanted them, & so on, then bam! were married & there's someone else there ha! & you have to get used to each others ways & work on them - together! I love being married but it is work! It is worth the work!

Jennifer said...

Things can look very different on the outside. Sometimes it's easy to forget to be loving. I think being playful helps.

Oh, and my hubby makes really funny "fake" fart sounds all the time....especially when I bend over. haha! He does it in the phone too when I'm gone! :)

P! said...

I love this post. It's so raw and honest- those are THE BEST kind of posts... they can be embarrassing to admit sometimes, but usually they're just plain sweet. I love how much you two love each other. :)

Steph said...

awww i love this post!!! makes me wanna go and hug b ... ( he is on the lawn mower so i might just wait..then again maybe not.. ) this is sweet!!!!

oomph. said...

and this is how it should be!!
nice post :)

[oomph.]

monster cakes said...

Well you guys are freaking cute, even if you do fight like normal people. And I think you guys are doing just fine. Instead of focusing on the fights, you focus on the happy future. Good for you! Forgiveness is the secret, I swear. ; )

Alexis Kaye said...

YES! I love those so much I couldn't even begin to tell you! It's awsome! I agree 115%! Marriage is so worth it! Today I was talkign to one of my friends at school and said that I don't understand why marriage gets such a bad rep! It's so great! hard at times, but AWESOME!

Gentri said...

LOVE this!! So much!

Bree said...

Perfectly said! Love it! And great reminder for me and my marriage!!

Mandi said...

Aw...I love you Courtney! I love reading your blog. I love that you are so honest. I love reading about all of your ups and downs. You're truly amazing. Thanks for sharing.

Kelsey Cole said...

I LOVED this post. No marriage is perfectly perfect, but i think the imperfections help us to grow, and fall even more in love along the way:)
and... either all guys are so much alike, or covey and eric could be best buds, because he has totally done the fart into the phone thing.. ha! seriously, I don't understand why men get so much satisfaction from that, lol!
you are so cute courtney! I always love reading your posts:)

Tiffany said...

I feel like I could have written this! I think one of the reasons we might lose our temper with our spouses (over anyone else) or snap at them is because we feel so safe with them. Nate & I use the verse "Let not the sun go down upon your wrath" in our house often. When we fight about anything, we always resolve it quickly and we never let it fester into something worse. Anyways, you've got it down girl! And as long as you keep doing what you're doing, you and Eric will have a long happy marriage!!

Megan said...

This is SO perfectly said!!!! I love the honesty!

Natalie said...

Yes all very true! Marriage isn't easy but if you work at it that's what makes it last. Great post!

whitney tomlin said...

I love your blog! I'm a new follower :)

Chelsea said...

I love this post so much. You are definitely right, girl! Marriage is hard, but the good parts make up for the hard parts x100. Thanks for being so open and honest!

And you two really are going to have the best looking nuggets.

Ever.

Laura Darling said...

I love the honesty of this post! You guys sound great!

Jamie said...

Your relationship sounds beautiful to me! Quirks and all! I need to get a bit more silliness into my marriage.. I'm gonna try that pants thing! LOL!

riotersbloc said...

This was such a lovely post! I can relate to a lot of what you said (maybe not the farts thing, my hubby gets so embarrassed by anything like that lol!) but definitely agree that even when relationships aren't perfect and you fight or get on each other's nerves, love and commitment to see it through can mean so much :)

kyna... said...

Hooray for being honest and real! Love, love, love this post Courtney!
♥ Kyna

Mrs W said...

And that's what an eternal marriage is all about. Wouldn't it be exhausting to be perfect all the time? You said it best sista!

m&msmommy said...

GREAT post!!!!! And SO true!

I can be quite the selfish brat too!!! ;)

You two are going to make BEAUTIFUL children!!!! :)

Have a great weekend!

Janine van Staden said...

I absolutely loved this post! and I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for the lovely comment on my blog!

You and Eric are absolutely amazing together and a real inspiration! with the bad and the good!

Hope for the best for both of you ... always! :)

dottie said...

Love this. Nobody is perfect but you two are perfect for each other. It is the best feeling isn't it?!?

Amanda said...

Thank you for this post! Honestly, we do not nearly acknowledge the real ups and downs of it's like to be in a relationship (or married in your case). It's not easy, but love does conquer all. And from that note you wrote, you two will last a lifetime. Because in my eyes, that is was a REAL and PERFECT marriage should be.

Ashley Slater said...

Great post...so many bloggers make their relationships look perfect and we all know that is not real life!!

xo,
ashley

Andrea said...

Hi! Thanks for your sweet comment on my blog! I would love to take pics of you and your hubs..you two are adorable and obviously photogenic, but..I live in a tiny waaay northern town in Alberta Canada... So unless you want to pay for flights?? lol I'm just kidding, but I would envy any photographer that could take pics of you two beautiful people!

Lori said...

You are so great and I love how you keepin it real, homey g:)

tifsong said...

you're cute.

LaynahRose said...

Well of course no marriage is perfect! You guys are so cute how you act like you're still dating though...playing and having fun with eachother.

haa and I'm willing to bet your children will be super attractive.

Amanda* said...

This post is so perfect and sweet :) I love it!

brooke field said...

marriage is so worth it, but not without its challenges. i believe in not sharing too much on social networks, because we're all here to inspire and share our happiness, right?!?

Faith said...

love this post! written so well ... love the honesty and the truth too!

Francesca said...

relationships are never perfect, but love prevails! xx opinionslave
/ twitter: @opinionslave

Vale ♥ said...

I love this post and as a newlywed I appreciate it even more :)
If you want we could follow each other, let me know if you follow my blog and I will surely follow back ! My blog is mostly about fashion but I talked about my wedding there too =)

Fashion and Cookies

just call me jo said...

You have 35 comments? That's as amazing as your picturesque marriage. Thanks for stopping by my blog. You two are as cute as can be. (You DO buy a lot of clothes at once, I see in previous post. Sounds like my daughter.) I wish you good luck and fair fights. You have to fight occasionally. Just no mean fighting. Stop by again sometime. I am a little jealous of your cuteness and happiness and I'm old enough to know better. It just looks soooo perfect.

Sara Shoemaker said...

what a Real post I love it. it's so true about marriage, definitely alot of work but so worth it! thanks for your comment!

Miss Amy said...

NEEDED to read this today! My man is being a straight UP PILL tonight, and sometimes I wonder if our relationship is faltering...Then I remember, he's human, just like me. We all have off days, moody nights. Thanks for reminding me and for stopping by to say hello. :)

anna said...

very honest and true. hoping to have a great marriage too someday!! but i'll join the mass and say that you two really are cute!

anna
www.embracethesunshine.blogspot.com

Ashley said...

Courtney, this is such a wonderful and honest blog post! It's so important to forgive the ones we love. I mean... fights, disagreements, and arguments happen. It's how we move past them that allows us to have better relationships. No one has 'the' perfect relationship, and marriages take work. Isn't it amazing being married to someone who you know will continue working to have a great marriage with you? (:

Liesl said...

Can I just tell you how much I love this open and honest post! Thank you for this, Courtney!

...oh and I realized I just called you both cute in your blog post above, which you are, but I completely understand how it doesn't mean everything is always perfect! :)

As I am busy planning my wedding for next year, I also know that marriage takes work, just as a relationship does, and so many have said how perfect and happy and wonderful me and my unexpected love and fiancé are and we are definitely happy and things are often wonderful, but just as any relationship there are days when the other can annoy or frustrate you, etc...but I LOVE how you said it is sometimes easier to remember the times Eric made you cry over the reasons you fell in love or to stay mad than to forgive and forget, etc...and you are so right!

I think every person has their strengths and faults, that is what makes us human, and no two people are going to be 100% happy or perfect all the time because each is his or her own person in the end with different thoughts, feelings, ways of dealing with things, etc., but it is how you work through those differences and times that is what matters most and one's willingness to do so that will make it work and last in the long run, just as you and Eric will! :)

Phew! That was long...sorry, but thank you again for such a great post! Love your blog!

Liesl :)

Mr. and Mrs. Volheim said...

That was the cutest post I've ever read! So honest and true, but such a sincere look at your relationship and how in love you two are. I love it! It reminds me of my husband and I! =) I'm so glad to have found your blog, I look forward to reading more!