Sunday, March 20, 2011

am I going to let a tiny storm rain on my parade?

Yesterday was such a great day except for one tiny conversation that just completely threw me off guard.  This is the first time that I've cried about it since I wrote this post
 A woman that I just met, and will never see again took it upon herself to pull me aside and ask what I am using on my face.  I believe she truly meant no harm but...c'mon!  My good friends, people that know me don't ask me such a personal, sensitive question...let alone strangers!  And I realize it's sensitive because I make it so, but let me tell you the rest of the conversation...
 I stuttered and stumbled over my answer (because I was shocked and so caught off guard with the question) and tried to explain to her that I'm taking care of my face, it's a hormone imbalance so it hasn't been easy, and it really is getting better.  "Oh but you're not using acutane right?  Cause that's bad stuff."  Great...so my face looks bad enough I should be on acutane?!  I told her no.  Then she proceeded to ask me to guess her age, cause I'd never believe how old she is.  To humor her I guessed 40 (I really thought she was older than that but why put my foot in my mouth when she's doing such a good job for the both of us?!)  "No I'm 52, I know you're shocked cause my face looks so great!  People think I'm in my 40's all the time and it's cause I've got such amazing skin!"  Gah!!  Can I just punch you right in your amazing face?!  Seriously! 
Then she tried to sell me her product.  Word to the wise: the next person that tries to sell me their product... I will punch you in the face.  Haha ok, I'm kidding.  I'm open to suggestions but PLEASE go about it in a much nicer way (and when you're not looking to make some money off of me ha)!  Anyway.... I cried driving home.  I'm really proud of myself that this is the first time I've let my skin really bother me since that post (which is easier to do because it really is getting better!) but so frustrated at the same time.  I was so mad that I could let such a silly, clueless lady let me feel ugly!  It's so easy to get down on ourselves but I believe that women have the right to feel pretty!!  No matter our age, weight, skin condition, whatever!  We are daughter's of God and are entitled to feeling beautiful, like a princess, etc.  Please allow yourselves to feel good about you!  I'm going to try my hardest, even when someone unintentionally puts me down :)


On a much happier note..... say hello to northern Utah's newest spin instructor!!  :)  Yesterday I took the course to get certified and I get to start making calls this week about teaching!  I can't wait! 
And I just have to give a shout out to my husband... Eric, thanks so much for supporting me 100%!  You don't tease me for how silly I am to want to teach spin, instead you buy me new spin shoes, sign me up for the course, and give me a big kiss as I run out the door to accomplish one of my goals!  And thank you for making me feel beautiful in a weak moment, I love you for it!  I am the luckiest wifey ever :)

34 comments:

Antoinette said...

What a silly silly lady! People like that annoy me so much. I can totally understand how that would upset you as I suffered from bad acne for a very long time and had a few comments like that which really knocked my confidence.
Don't ever let people like that make you feel bad! You are young and absolutely beautiful so I bet she was jealous. Her pathetic comment doesn't deserve another thought.

xx

m&msmommy said...

I am so sorry that you had to deal wtih that. Unintentional or not, people just do NOT think and it's just really unfortunate. Like you said, I'm sure she didn't mean to hurt but really, WHO WOULD EVER SAY THAT TO A COMPLETE STRANGER!??!?!?!? Ugh! I know what it's like to struggle with personal insecurities and regardless of what others tell you to make you feel better (husbands, mothers, etc.) it doesn't matter. Hang in there!

Thank you for your sweet comment the other day! :)

The Gates said...

I want to kick that lady in the face for you. Sometimes I don't understand how people have 0% common sense. Any way I'm so sorry!
PS I think I'm getting back into blogging, thanks to you....oh and I love love love my hair, it's been a serious confidence booster.

The Terry's said...

im so sorry you had to go threw that. im sure i would have said something completely rude to that lady for you, if i was there. people who do that drive me nuts. my grandma did that once to me right after having my first son. supposedly your supposed to loose weight while you nurse. my body didn't get that memo with either of my kids. I think your gorgeous, don't let one crazy old lady make you rain on your parade. You have a lot going for you. and congrats on the spin class instructor.

Claire said...

wow, i'm not even shocked at how unbelievably RUDE some people are. I bet she wasn't even that good looking, all that uglyness must seep out from inside xx

Jennifer said...

CONGRATS ON GETTING SPIN CERTIFIED!!!!! That is so fabulous! It's one of my goals!!! =)

regarding bitchy mc-bitcherson.... She really probably deserved at least a bottle of water thrown in her face for being such a tool. Karma will do the face slapping for ya though =) proooomise!

mwah!

xoXOxo
Jenn @ Peas & Crayons

Alycia (Crowley Party) said...

Some people are so stupid, and we are only human and let them bother us. You have a good perspective, and just keep reminding yourself that you are a beautiful daughter of God.
Congrats on the SPIN certification! How exciting :)

Katie said...

Courtney, that woman clearly does not know the reality of being a woman. If so she would not that all of us have insecurities, we all are sensitive about something. It's natural, it's called being a woman. On that note I know how you feel. I've been struggling with my 'imperfections' for so long. I wear makeup everyday and I do admire women that don't need to wear any makeup, sadly though I'm not one of them. I pray for a day I don't have too. That woman had know right to make any comment to you. I'm glad that you brushed it off, your tears show how genuine you are. You care about you and your feelings were hurt. What anyone says to us overall does not have any impact on our lives. Maybe her skin is great for being 52 but I bet she has parts not working like they did when she was 20 :)

xoxo
Katie

Tamara Nicole said...

A spin instructor?! That's so cool!!! If only you were closer I'd go to your classes:-)

And girly you are gorgeous, no worries at all seriously! She's just trying to sell her product, just smile and move on.

Randi Gardner said...

GO COURTNEY!!! Now if only you could teach down here. :( Awww you'll be the best spin instructor ever!
And about the other subject, I think you said just what I needed to hear. Sometimes I get so stressed out about my size because I am taller and curvier than the women in Trenton's family and it makes me feel very insecure... but you're right I SHOULD allow myself to feel good about me because God made me in his image and he took special care into making each one of us into our own special selves. Such nice thoughts Courtney.
You know, it's weird to here you talk about this because you have always been a really big example of confidence to me. I don't understand how you do it... you always seem so comfortable in your own skin. You know you rock! :) Love you Court.
P.S. You are supposed to call me when things like this happen!

Katie said...

Congrats you lil cute spin instructor!! I am SO very proud of you! And P.S. that woman sounds like an awful human being. Yeah, she may have "perfection" on the outside (as she seems to tell you) but I bet her insides are all shriveled. Don't let anyone make you cry! You are such a beautiful person inside and out. Ugh! That just makes me so mad. And to be honest, I took accutane. It is not a bad drug as that lady tells you. It cleared my skin up 100% when I delt with acne in my early 20s. Way to stay positive!

XO, Katie
Running on Happiness

Mandi said...

Oh my gosh! What a rude lady! Who does she think she is anyways?? You are a beautiful amazing daughter of God!
Congrats on the spin instructor! All your talk about it makes me want to come to your classes...and I've never done spin. (I know I'm a chicken)

GypsyFox said...

I say...you should have punched her amazing face!! lol we all have insecurities & I just cannot believe the big balls the lady had to point yours out!! UGH! :-( & congrats on getting certified

Amy said...

Ugh, I'm sorry! I for sure think things hurt us worse when we're sensitive about them, but it still doesn't make it okay for random strangers to butt themselves into your life in a noncomplimentary way. I love that you share personal things like this on your blog - your (kind) reaction to her rudeness definitely makes me think @ what I say and do when people hurt my feelings.

Melissa: Write it in Lipstick said...

I am so sorry hon about that evil 52 year old that looks 90 LOL. But I have no tips I wash my face with baby shampoo. I use to break out all the time and I finally gave up and it cleared up on it self. Having kids helped it too. But good luck with Spin.

Write it in Lipstick

monster cakes said...

That lady sounds awful! You are right--you are a child of God, and you are beautiful. So don't let her get you down. I had horrible horrible skin during college and had to be on medication, so I understand how you feel. I still don't have great skin and I have lots of scarring from it, but I finally had to realize that these things don't define me, and it's our imperfections that make us unique and beautiful. AND it doesn't hurt to have such a sweet, admiring husband. Lucky girl! You are gorgeous, so smile today. : )

Brooke said...

You poor thing. People can be SOOO inconsiderate. I totally feel you on the acne stuff. I went through a really rough patch for about 9 months. People made comments about it that really hurt my feelings too.

Leanna said...

Ugh, some people just have no tact at all. I'm sorry... I hate it when people do that. I was also in the mall once walking past some cosmetics cart, and the saleswoman was like, "I could sell you some concealer for those blemishes!" Gee, thanks lady, that REALLY makes me want to buy something from you (not). I know that's not as bad as what that lady said to you, but I know the feeling. You seem to have a good attitude about it, though. Keep it up! :)

BRIAN+SHELBIE CLEMENT said...

People have pulled me aside and have done the same exact thing to me since I was 9. I was on acctuane for almost 3 years (it was 2 different times) and have tried everything in the books. You are beautiful and I have always have been a little jealous of you!! (shh.. It's my secret) I love ya Court and who cares what that beast says!

tifsong said...

court, your beautiful. you just simply are.

and i'm SO excited for you to be a spin instructor! you'll be so great! maybe i'll come to a class or something.. heh.

love.
tif

GlossyGlamGirl said...

thank you beauty.. your blog is so sweet !! I wish you and your man the best for your future !!
xoxo

Young People in Love said...

Just found your blog :) Hooray for Utah and hooray for not letting mean people get ya down and hooray for new spin instructor status!

Stout Family said...

What the crap? I would have punched her awesome face, scratched it with dirty hands and rub french fries all over it! My skin has been strugglin since I got pregnant I would have cried too. Its crazy how it can make you feel, not even in a vain way, just idk how to explain it, its rough. Awesome sales technique sales lady- NOT. You are so cute Court- always. And congrats on being a SPIN instructor! YEAH:)

Brady and Lindsay Wood said...

All I have to say is some people have NO class. I'm sorry you had such a bad run in with a crazy lady.

Yes YES YES I want to see you when we are in Utah this summer. We are going on a trip while there so once I find out the plans I will let you know so we can plan a date.

danielle @ take heart said...

i'm sorry someone said that to you! but you are so beautiful, don't let anyone make you think different. you are a precious child of the King!

and congrats!!!

Megan said...

Congrats on becoming a spin instructor! That's awesome!! : )

Do not let that crazy, awful lady get you down. As a woman, she should know that we are ALL insecure about things and we should respect each other.

Ashley said...

Courtney! You keep your pretty little head up, girl! Do not even let that silly woman get you down! You are so beautiful, and some people are just NUTS! ugh. When I used to work, before Hudson was born, I had my share of rude women saying things that they never ever should have to anyone....much less a stranger. What gets me is...these women are older. Like, do they not have children or at least remember what it was like to be young? Anyone with any kind of sense would never put a young woman down. For any reason. That just goes to show you the woman was clueless. That makes me mad.

Just know that there are a lot more people who LOVE you than there are meanies who want to hurt your feelings. And what a SWEET hubby you have!!

p.s. Congrats on becoming a spin instructor!!! That's so awesome...I can't even make it through one spin class! HA!

Benjamin said...

Wow. I cannot believe that lady! Who would do that, seriously? I am so sorry! You are so beautiful, I hope you don't worry about a thing she said! And Congrats on getting spin certified! That's so exciting! When you start teaching, let me know so I can come to your class!

jennifer a said...

Whoops! That comment from "Benjamin" was actually me! :)

Shalyn said...

I am so sorry girl:-( That is tough. Aren't you so lucky to be so beautiful on the inside (I can already tell by your sweet comments you leave me and this here blog) AND on the outside and to know that this stuff is going to be a memory soon enough? Keep your head up in the mean time- with as beautiful of a smile as you have, no one will even notice the visitors;-)

Congrats on becomming a spin instructor- I am going to do that someday;-) I would totally take your class!

The Little Flapper said...

Sadly there are rude people like that everywhere:(

For the record I think you and your skin are beautiful :)

Betsey said...

aww girl - I can totally relate to you on this one (again). My skin is sooo not good (but definitely getting better). But, as bad as mine is, my little sisters is a lot worse, and once we were out together shopping at Sephora and one of the sales ladies came up to us and tried to get us to come over to the skin care section - it was so humiliating and frustrating! I hate when people do that - what do they think, that we walk around rubbing dirt on our faces and don't try to do anything about it? UGH! Both my sister and I are trying everything we can, and it is SO not helpful when strangers take it upon themselves to try to give suggestions. i hate that!

Anyway, forget her, she doesn't know you and hasn't seen the improvements in your skin. So keep doing what you're doing and feel beautiful! And congrats on your spin class! that sounds like soo much fun!

Darby Arby and the Green Tie Guy said...

you're beautiful! I remember growing up and just up until last year I had pretty bad acne on my face and back. It was embarrassing, and i would convince myself that no one noticed or anything; until someone would say something. I finally chalked it up to being able to relate to my sons and daughters someday... the ONLY thing that worked for me (and i still use) is Neutrogena Skin ID.

oomph. said...

omg, i finally found the link to your blog! so sorry you had to go thru this. seriously, no class...some people will do anything for a buck. you're gorgeous, doll :)

congrats on becomming an instructor! i've never taken a spin class, but i used to hear them at the gym...sounds intense, but fun!

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