Monday, October 19, 2015

baby James- a birth story {pt 3}

The nurse returned just minutes after my doctor left and she stayed in the room with us to help me through the contractions, bless her! I felt her pressing on my belly, pressure points I'm assuming, as she encouraged me and told me how great I was doing through the contractions. The pain continued to increase and I was losing relief in between contractions as the pressure was building down there. I felt pressure when it was time to push with Mia, but no pain because of my epidural. It was shocking to feel pain with the pressure, ugh, I was so miserable! I started to tell my nurse about the pressure I was feeling when I suddenly developed the shakes, but a severe case of the shakes (severe in my opinion, ha ha! I had the shakes with Mia but they just felt like small tremors and my teeth chattered a little bit.) My hands crippled/seized up and I went into a major panic about that! "Look at my hands! Oh my gosh, why are they doing this?! I can't straighten my fingers! Are they going to be stuck like this forever?!" I can't remember what she was saying to me but I do remember Eric trying to straighten my fingers out. I don't know if he thought I was doing it on purpose, or if he was just trying to help me calm the heck down by straightening them (but they would just cripple back up. It was the weirdest thing!) My blood pressure cuff tried to take my blood pressure but my arm was so tense that the cuff wouldn't loosen because it couldn't get a read on me. My nurse asked me to relax so that it could take my blood pressure and loosen up as I was crying to her that I thought my arm might fall off between the pressure of the cuff and my crippled hands, ha ha (but it wasn't funny in the moment, I was stressing out!) I told her I didn't know how to relax... I had no idea what my body was doing and I couldn't control it! Next thing I knew she was pulling out the oxygen and asking if I could hold it to my mouth or if she should strap it to my head. I couldn't move my arms so she strapped it to my head, asked if I needed an extra blanket (that's when I realized how hard my teeth were chattering, but I wasn't cold! I was over heated it felt like) and explained that even though my doctor had just checked me, she would check me. Just then the anesthesiologist came in. I saw him darting around the room for a minute while explaining that he was going to try another medicine, and if that didn't work then he would redo my epidural. The nurse checked me at the same time when she jumped up and said, "DON'T PUSH with your contractions! You are at a 10! I need to go call the doctor and see what he wants to do! Again, DON'T PUSH while I'm gone!" And just like that, the room cleared and it was just Eric, me and the pain alone together again. (That all happened in just a couple minutes of my body going into shock, or whatever you want to call it, it happened so quickly!) 

 This was after everything settled down. We were all relaxing, which meant TV for Eric, ha ha!
I felt a weird sense of validation as Eric and I checked the time and realized that in just 20 minutes my body had progressed from a 6 to a 10 with no epidural. I finally had an explanation for the world of hurt I was feeling (as if I needed an explanation, I was in labor for crying out loud! I later remembered that I was on pitocin, another reason for the extreme pain when I was only at a 6.) but it also makes me frustrated to think about the big, fat epidural bill that's coming my way... it totally let me down... is there a discount for that?! ha ha! My nurse came back awhile later to a new patient! The medicine had kicked in and I was pain free again, my hands had relaxed and my shakes were back down to a minimum. I was laughing and joking when she came back and I could see the surprise on her face- I'm a pleasant person to be around when I'm not in pain ;) She told me that the doctor wanted to have me "labor down" and hold off from pushing for awhile. Even though I was at a 10, the baby was still high up (common when a version has been performed) and he wanted the baby to come down lower on his own so that I didn't exhaust myself from pushing. I ended up "laboring down" for two more hours, which was annoying because I thought it was go time, but I was able to get some much needed sleep in that time! 


Side note: I was extremely disappointed to see that I had missed dinner. The kitchen closed at 7 and that was when I received the news that it wasn't time to push yet. I made a plan with the nurse that she would bring me a fruit plate when I finally delivered and Eric would go get take out. I was STARVING and much of my conversation that day revolved around food, ha ha! 


At 9PM my doctor finally came in and told me it was time to push! I could feel pressure from the contractions but it was harder for me to push this time around! First of all, I forgot just how hard it is to push a baby out- such hard work!! But I suspect that going from feeling everything to feeling nothing but a bit of pressure made it more difficult for me to feel where I needed to push. The doctor and my amazing nurse were super encouraging and helpful with the push process, thank heavens! His head was finally coming out when the doctor told me to stop pushing as he unwrapped the cord from around the baby's neck saying with his Indian accent, "you naughty little boy!" ha ha. I won't ever forget that! I was actually extremely nervous the whole time he was breech that the reason was because of the cord, but Eric said it wasn't tight around his neck at all. Then I felt him slide the rest of the way out (at 9:29PM) and he was finally in my arms! 


James was so quiet as he laid there, like he was taking it all in. He was such a sweet boy, perfect in every way! The nurse took him to clean him up, weigh him, etc. I asked the doctor how long I pushed for and he told me, "oh, probably 5-7 minutes!" I said, "wow, that was the LONGEST 5 minutes of my life!" He laughed at me and explained that I pushed for that little time, but it was probably a half hour in total with waiting time in between contractions. That made so much more sense :) I tore "a little" so the doctor worked on stitching me up while I watched them take care of my baby across the room. Eric was so attentive following them from the scale, to the warming bed and taking lots of pictures with my phone! James weighed 6 lbs 14 oz (Mia weighed 7 lbs) and was 19 3/4 inches long (Mia was 19 1/2 inches). 


They finally brought my baby to me and I got to cuddle him and soak up skin to skin. The room slowly cleared until it was just Eric, me and James (and my fruit plate, bless my nurse!) and we got to enjoy our sweet, wide eyed boy for the next couple of hours. He was so awake and alert and we loved every second of his newness! James Wendell Brinkerhoff was finally here and we couldn't have been happier!

16 comments:

Pamela {Sequins and Sea Breezes} said...

YAY! So happy when James finally made his way into the world that it was worth the wait! Sorry to hear that you had such a tough labor but you look SO happy in those last pictures! And he is so darn adorable! <3, Pamela Sequins & Sea Breezes

P!nky said...

WOW, what a conclusion. You had so many ups and downs and I'M SO GLAD the epidural finally worked. I would have been mad too if I had to pay for something that didn't help. Your doctor sounds awesome, what a cute lil quote. Love all your pictures and the fact everyone was safe and sound after a long birthing day. I love you!

Foxy's Domestic Side said...

Yay, so happy to finally read the conclusion! I was like you and went from a 7 to a 10 in about 10 minutes and the baby came a few minutes after that! But I totally missed the epidural boat all together, so never got that bill, the up side! The down side, I feel ya on the pain, I kept saying, I can't do this any more, I can't do this any more! I have no idea how woman do it naturally on purpose! Props to them.

Courtney [Sweet Turtle Soup] said...

phew. I feel like I was tense reading the whole time. Yeah I think they should have refunds for epidurals that don't do their job!!

BLovedBoston said...

Oh my goodness girl - what a birth story! So happy that you and james are healthy and happy! xo, Biana -BlovedBoston

Kiki Mincks said...

I've been waiting so long to finish this. Even though it seemed horrible, and you were thinking about how hungry you were (girl I was sooo ready to eat when I finally had our daughter) I bet now it's such a memory. I feel like after the first week all the pain, from my epidural only effecting one leg, was forgotten. Especially after you heal, it's like it never really happened. I remember wanting to punch my nurse when she told me to "stop pushing," so she could call the doctor while my daughters head was coming out of me! haha Oh the memories we hold with us. So happy you an little James are healthy. Many blessings to the four of you. (:

Hannah said...

Oh my goodness! What a story! I'm glad that everything and everyone turned out good in the end with no real drama - though the shakes and and all that you went through does not sound fun. So glad you and James are both healthy and doing well! :)

Ashley Brickner said...

Love this story!!!!! A happy ending & a perfect little boy! Xo

Our Pretty Little Girls said...

What a story girl! Congratulations again on the perfect ending.

Kimberly said...

Yay!! I'm so glad it ended well! This makes me nervous to have another baby! Both my first deliveries were (relatively) easy. At least my epidural never wore off with Olivia. With Axel it took like 24 hours after he was born to wear off! He was born so fast maybe I didn't need one??? Who knows, better safe than sorry! But this makes me think maybe my next one will be totally different. You just never know! And I "live tweeted" my labor with Axel but it was just a bunch of tweets about food. I was sooooooooo hungry. And I totally did push that baby out in time for dinner haha!

Laura Marie Keenan said...

Beautiful story! The shaking is actually all the adrenalin going through your body. I experienced that too and felt so out of control. I wish I would have known before hand and embraced it more. Kinda cool when you think about it.

lori said...

Bless your heart, birthing a baby is hard work... I can't imagine if my epidural had worn off with Carter! Good job, mama!!

Brittany said...

I can't even imagine how freaked out you must have been about your fingers! YIKES! The epidural thing freaks me out - if I'm asking for one, it better work, right?! Either way, I'm so, so glad that he's finally here and everyone is happy and healthy!

Evelina said...

I loved this whole story! I'm so glad that the medicine ended up working for you because that pain sounded really scary! He's so adorable :)

Alycia said...

aww. what a great story! Isn't it truly amazing what the human body can do? We cook up this babe inside us for 9 months and go through all that work to get this little human out of us, and in the end, it is just perfection. It's amazing how everyone's birth stories are so different too. I just finished doing Charlie's birth story, so reading your's made me realize how unique everyone's is. I'm so happy everything worked out well for you (ie. pain meds!!) and your baby James is beautiful! XOX

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