Thursday, January 29, 2015

friends don't let friends move without them

My nerves have really made themselves at home now that it is officially moving time! Initially, we were (and still are) super excited about this awesome opportunity we had to make a change and move to Arizona! But as we've been running around saying goodbye to everyone these past couple weeks, my heart sinks a little more as I think about moving further away from everyone we love! We will always come back to visit our families, and they will come visit us, but that leaves little time to see our friends we've made over the years in Utah.
It's such a silly thing, but friendships have been very important to me in my adult years (friends were always important through school, obviously, but the friendships I've made since being married are different... deeper, if that makes sense?) I was absolutely terrified to leave my hometown and move to northern Utah. It was the biggest change I'd ever made and it was hard for me to leave the life I knew. But my first Sunday at church, I met a girl named Nicole, and thought nothing more of it. Before I knew it, Nicole and Vinny became our very best friends! We have the kind of friendship that survives eating dessert off of dirty dishes and utensils (because Eric thought I had washed the dishwasher and he didn't realize I hadn't until it was too late), laughing so hard we all almost pee our pants (on multiple occasions, and yes, our kids think we are crazy) and announcing pregnancy in the middle of Victoria's Secret (no it wasn't us, and yes we were all in there together, with our kids! Mia had multiple pairs of underwear around her neck and thought they were the best accessory to walk around the store in!) It was awful moving away from them (and all of the other amazing friendships we made) to our small town a few hours away. Now it just seems plain cruel to be moving to another state. It's totally unfair that we lived by each other for a short time! But at the same time, I know our friendship will be life long and when we do get to spend time together, it will be the BEST!
I guess what I'm getting at is that we have been blessed to make the most incredible friends over the years! My best friend in Washington, Eric's friends from high school that are still very close and all of our other friendships across Utah... we are better people because of those relationships! And now I'm nervous (excited, but super nervous) to start new. I am definitely excited about being closer to the friendships I do have in Arizona, but I just hope and pray that we will be able to meet some amazing people and find friends in our area in no time! Wish me luck, ha ha!

14 comments:

P!nky said...

Saying goodbye stinks. I know people try to change it to see you later, until next time but it's still goodbye to how things were. And that's not fun. Even if a new adventure awaits, your friendships were good while that destination was your home. I'm 100% sure you will make amazing new friendships in your new home. And I'll probably be calling you when we move for tips on how to function without your circle.

Cheers for an amazing time with amazing friends and cheers to the new adventure ahead! Love you, lady!

Jamie @ The Jamie's + 1 said...

I completely understand what you were saying about friendships being deeper! I am sure you will make new friends that will be a great addition in your life! And I am sure you will get to make fun road trips to see your 'old' friends! Congrats to you in this new chapter of your life!

Kelly Mock said...

That is so hard! I'll be praying for an easy transition!

Jenn said...

I can imagine how difficult it is to leave behind friends--and I'm 100% with you, the friendships you make at this point in your life are so much deeper, and harder to let go of (even if letting go of how things currently are). I know you'll adjust and make new friends, but it's going to be a process for sure. One that might involve some tears, but at least you know your friends are always there for you, even if they can't be "there" in person

Brittany said...

It's never easy to move and start over! For me, it's really hard to meet new people and when I moved from Cincinnati to Indianapolis, I thought it would be impossible. Little did I know that I would make a couple forever friends and meet my fiance! It's just important to put in the effort to maintain those friendships. Sometimes you have friends that you can go for months without talking to and you can pick up right where you left off, but for others, you need to nurture the friendship with something as simple as a text or phone call! I have no doubt you'll meet plenty of awesome people in your new city and I'm so excited to hear all about it!

Amanda said...

Aw this makes me cry. I know the feeling girlfriend. We live away from our absolute best friends. You know, the kind where you can go what seems like forever without seeing each other but then when you do, nothing has changed. Ya'll relationship will always be amazing. It sucks, but it just means your friendship will outlast anything! :)

MONICA'S NOTEBOOK said...

Ugh! That's so hard! We have some best friends that are about 4 hours away and when we get to spend time with them it's AWESOME but it's so hard not seeing them regularly. Y'all will make awesome friends wherever you go! And the distance will definitely strengthen your friendship! <3

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~Dawn~ said...

Ah, it's never easy leaving close friends and family behind while you're trying to be excited about your new adventures, but friends are friends and they'll stick with you no matter what. And I'm certain you'll find an amazing new bunch of ladies in AZ.

Our Pretty Little Girls said...

I can only imagine the emotions that you are feeling right now. It's gotta be so exciting and scary too. Praying that all of it goes well and that it quickly feels like home.

Pamela {Sequins and Sea Breezes} said...

Moving is SO hard. You're excited about the new opportunity and new place but upset about leaving the people you love. But the best part is that social media makes it super easy to keep in touch with those people! My friend and I have Skype dates where we both get a glass of wine and watch a show "together" once a week. Its not quite the same but at least its something! Hoping things go well for you girl!

Elizabeth Birenbaum said...

I can only imagine how scary this all is. The idea of moving sounds great to me too (hello being able to afford a house!) but leaving friends and family scares the cr*p out of me. Now I know that statement is not the greatest encouragement but I will tell you... I moved to Southern CA from Northern CA after college and I knew nobody. I moved for my (then) boyfriend but he is all I knew. It was scary. But it was worth it because now I have Seth and Mason. And while you obviously aren't trying to find a husband (hi Eric!), I think you will be able to make friends easily. While I don't know you in person, you seem so, so sweet and outgoing and friendly and who wouldn't want to be friends with you??? And if worse comes to worse, I only like like 5 hours from there so you can just come visit :)

Caroline At Windy City Chic said...

Totally understandable that it's scary and sad at the same time. Things like FaceTime, Google Hangout, and Skype make it better too. Even though I haven't met you in person, you are sweet, caring, and fun. You will absolutely make new friends and they will be great too. Have a wonderful weekend!!

The Siberian American said...

I completely understand your feelings right now. We are likely moving this summer (and if not, definitely next summer), and it is so so hard to think about leaving friends and our life here.

Annette said...

Best wishes to you, my friend. I know you'll make some wonderful new friendships because you're such a kind, sweet, and compassionate person. Plus, it sounds like you're tons of fun to be with too. It's always hard to move away from close friends, but if they are true friends, you'll always have that connection--no matter the distance. Hugs and prayers to you in this new phase of your life.

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