Tuesday, January 10, 2012

...and we're moving :(

I've decided that I'm a creature of habit. I do love adventures, and to try new things.... for a week or so. Then I like to go back to my comfortable life and routine. I've learned that change terrifies me and stresses me out to no end (or so it seems).
Last week Eric received a job offer that will have us moving again. I was out of town working the whole week and it was incredibly stressful to try to make this huge decision together... over the phone. I have no desire to pick up my life and move to a small town (where we still have to deal with horrible, snowy winters) and leave all of my friends. I am the type of girl that needs friends in my life, and I've made the best friends I could have imagined up here. The thought of starting over just really scares me.
Then there are the stresses of cleaning, packing, finding a new place to live (over the internet since we are 3 hours away), moving, being separated, money, transferring schools, etc. We have to find someone to take over our lease because we are locked in until September, which is totally inconvenient. Oh, and did I mention that we have about 2 weeks, 3 tops to accomplish all of this?! I could go on and on, it's really easy for me to think of the negatives right now :)
But then I look at Eric and see how happy he is to finally receive the job offer he's been wanting/waiting for. He is so excited to move forward in his career and create a better future for our family. My SIL, Alycia, reminded me what a blessing it is that Eric has had so many job opportunities in the last year. We have certainly experienced having no opportunities... Another dear friend reminded me that I can do hard things. All of the sweet words of encouragement I've received made me realize that my fear of change kind of turned me into a selfish bitty this past week.
Yes, I'm scared. Yes, this is definitely happening way.too.fast. And yes, I know that this move is right for us. So it's time for me to stop being selfish and start supporting my husband, and show him that I am happy because of his happiness. I need to turn my negative way of thinking around and find the positive in this situation. I will just be praying hard for lots of comfort through this big change :)

47 comments:

Alycia (Crowley Party) said...

That does suck you guys had to make a decision over the phone. No fun! But like I said, it is a blessing Eric has had so many opportunities! Look for the GOOD in it all :)

Michelle P said...

I agree, that stinks the move had to be talked about over the phone. hope the move goes well!

Laura said...

Praying for you. I hope that all works out in the end. It's great that your husband has an awesome job opportunity! Life is a funny thing sometimes, you never know where it's going to take you!

~Laura

Ashley said...

It will all work out! Take one thing at a time - write a big old to-do list! Wishing you luck on this transition!

Elisha(: said...

moving is VERY stressful /: ill pray for youu (: <3

kyna... said...

I totally know how you feel...I HATE change. But it will be a good thing, I promise sweetie! Stay strong! you'll get through this and will be even happier in the end cause Eric will be happier!
xoxo
Kyna

Bethany said...

You will be exactly where you are supposed to be. God will take care of you! Chin up, girlfriend! (:

Noelani said...

Change is for the most part, good. Not to mention it's nice to be able to travel and explore new places, while creating new memories together. Best of luck on your guys' new adventure :)

Cindy P said...

Good luck with everything!!

I have a feeling moving for my hubby's job is coming this year for us, too. Or rather I know it is. For me the hard part is that I don't have a timeline for when it's going to happen (or where we're going), just that it is so it's REALLY hard for me to prepare for it. I'm excited though because it will be an adventure that we will take together. And that's what it is for you, too! At least you're not moving too far from where you currently live. If you want you can still visit your friends occassionally, right?

Anyway, good luck with the planning and packing and everything! I'll pray that you can find comfort in this big change and that God shows you His plan for this move!

Ashley {hudson's happenings} said...

Oh Courtney! I am so sorry that you are faced with such a big, scary decision! Change can be super hard, and I can totally relate to how you are feeling. BUT this will be one wonderful adventure....and one that you two are doing together!! And being together and being a team is most important....and it's something you two do better than most! I'll be praying for you guys...hang in there!! BIG hugs and love to you. xoxo

whitney tomlin said...

you can do it!
we signed for an apartment and all that jazz being SEVEN hours away. praying for ya!!

Cory and Kylee said...

I need to be more supportive with cory's decisions i feel selfish all the time. I am trying to be better at that all he does for me is so selfless of him. Its easier said than done. I know how you feel I dont like changes myself. Its something we will all go through but it doesnt make it easier at that moment! Let me know if you need anything!

m&msmommy said...

Praying for you my sweet friend! I think we all would be "selfish" in your shoes, especially me, because as I told you, I HATE change! :)

Love and prayers coming your way!

Chin up! It'll all work out! :)

Brianna said...

Keep telling yourself that things will be alright. Everything will work its self out. As long as you have each other, you will be fine in the end. :)

Steph@ Living The Young Life said...

I have been married now for 5 years and i will tell you one of the hardest things i have HAD to learn is doing whats best for the both of us not just the one(me) of us. Even when i really don't like it... You'll adapt,adjust, and move on and those friends you are talking about won't change if they are really your friend that will never matter :).. be EXCITED!! its a new chapter... The beginning may start off slow but by the next chapter you'll look back on how great it is!!

Sean Marie said...

Wow, sorry about that. It will all work out though, I know it. :)

Lauren said...

I'm so sorry you have to pack up and move so quickly and will be faced with tough goodbyes, however I know that everything happens for a reason! Stay positive to the best of your ability! Think of it as a new adventure! :) I know God will work everything out perfectly for the two of you!

Lots of love and prayers!

xo

Mia Maree said...

Definitely thinking about you Courtney!! We move often to and it is hard!

dottie said...

It will be a challenge especially in the short amount of time but you will be together with the love of your life in your new adventure. You are writing that next chapter of your life story. Think of all the new friends you'll make too! You'll have friends all over the place now!

(Trying to think of the positive side!)

Deveny said...

I'm in the same situation of not knowing exactly where we're going to end up here in the next few months... Prayer is my best friend and knowing no matter where we are, I'll have Mr. and The Admiral with me. That's really all I need. And with the church, there is no shortage of friends to be had. :)

Lauryn said...

Wow, I can't imagine how difficult it must be to make all of this major life decisions in a matter of weeks! You've got the right attitude though- I give you a lot of credit for recognizing what great opportunity this is for the two of you. Your friendships will still be there to help you through the transitions, and there are even more waiting for you in your new location! Best of luck to you both during your move!

Pamela said...

Girl, you can do it!! You're strong & beautiful!! The change might end up being even better that what you think! I am here if you need to talk!

Jessie Szmanda said...

Praying for you guys!! You can do it!

Laura said...

I wish you the best!! It's so hard to leave something comfortable...but just think of the fun new adventure that awaits- you will do great!!! :)

Carlie said...

It is scary when things change, but you are so friendly I am sure you will make a lot of new friends. And what a great opportunity for Eric's work! Good luck with all the moving prep!

Emma Frances said...

What an exciting new adventure! :] I hope that it turns out much better than you expect!

Whitney said...

Moving is hard but I love the saying "I can do hard things". And with hard things come great rewards. Congrats to your husband on getting a new job, that is so exciting expecially during the tough economic times. My husband job hunted for over a year!!

Bri said...

Congratulations on the new job for Eric! and I know moving is hard, I just moved last year to a place where I knew NO ONE, and had no one with me. It has been a challenge but it's also made me grow as a person and taught me a lot about myself. I'm sure you and Eric will experience the same things. Let me know if you need anything! or someone to just vent to! :)

Savannah said...

How stressful and exciting!! Good luck both your new adventure. :)

Katy said...

Congratulations to your husband on the new job! It will be hard to move so quickly, but it will all work out in the end. Have faith...and good luck with everything!

Alexis Kaye said...

That is scary. And that does suck! But a girl like you? You'll make friends wherever you go!!! oh, and next time make sure it's to Arizona!

Connie said...

I hear you girl. Moving IS scary and can be really hard. This will be our THIRD time finding a place to live via internet. Not the ideal way, I know. I will say this- you can't go wrong through prayer. The Lord obviously has growth in store for you both so He'll help you through it. Even with the particulars like finding a place, transferring, and making friends. I wish I could say it's been easy for me- it hasn't! But I CAN say it's also what I need, and I know that. It's been a good and positive thing. I wish you both the best! If you need someone to vent to you have a friend in a similar situation in life (:

Britt Hanson said...

I totally understand! We moved 3 hours away from where I grew up (and went to college) in August and I am still adjusting/getting to know people. Don't know where you are moving to... But if it's in southeastern Idaho, we can get together!

Chelsea said...

You are amazing. First of all, I can't even tell you how much I needed to read this story and your outlook on it. It was so encouraging and uplifting. I've struggled in the past with finding the positives in stressful situations and you did such a lovely job of that here.

Moving is definitely a challenge, especially in such a time crunch, but your positive outlook is such a beautiful thing :) I'm excited to see what the future has in store for the two of you!!

Erin said...

Moving is always so hard. I am sorry for the stress that moving is likely to cause...but there is always a reason and purpose for everything...one that may not look good from the outside...but once we get inside...we are so happy we did it! I hated my parents when they moved me across the country at 16...but it was the BEST thing that ever happened to me! :) Stay positive and know that this will all work out for your good hun!

Amanda said...

Courtney, here are my four words for you. I believe in you! I know that even though this is hard, it sucks, it hurts, and you probably want to cry (which I'm a total advocate of crying FYI), it's all going to be a-okay! Plus you still have your blog friends to keep you company since we're all very far away and all over the country ;)

C.Curley said...

We moved a couple years ago (though it was by choice and only about 30 minutes away), but we did EVERYTHING in 3 weeks. And I mean, find the new place, move stuff out of the new place (we knew the owners and the previous tennants were their parents, who had been moved to nursing homes), paint the new place, find someone to take over the lease on our apartment (we were locked in like you guys), re-paint our apartment back white, and MOVE everything. 3 weeks. That was it. It was like a whirlwind, but it all got done! I know it's different b/c it was totally voluntary and much closer, but I'm here to tell you it IS possible to take care of all the madness in such a short time. I HATE moving and we're trying to buy a house this year so it looks like I'll be doing it again! I'm super excited to buy a house, but I hate the process and I will miss the home I've made where we are now.

Faith said...

i hope that everything works out for the both of you ... i have a feeling it will ... moving stinks especially when it is away from the friends and a place we love. but it will work out, it always does :)

sydney b. said...

Moving is no fun but let me just tell you, it was huge blessing for my marriage, it was something exciting to bring us closer together. We didn't know anyone when we moved so we relied on ourselves and really grew in our marriage! We found out we were moving and moved within 2 weeks, just like you guys. It was hard but also exciting starting something new and fresh. Good luck with moving!

Ashley said...

Awww Courtney! I can definitely relate to all of those feelings you're having about moving and your husband getting a new job. Remember... we just went through that less than a year ago. It's hard to see the good when you're in the middle of everything, but I promise it will work out for you guys!! Think of it as an adventure you get to share with your husband. (:

Shalyn said...

:-( I had a really hard time with this move to MO. It was so hard for me to accept that wherever Coopers goals take him is where I need to go, no matter where that puts me with my goals. I can't get my license here and can't go to school without paying ridiculous tuition... I had a breakdown a few weeks ago and Cooper told me he would quit school the next day if I really wanted him to. I have a strong feeling your man would offer the same to you:-) The minute he said that I realized that being with him and him being happy is what makes ME happy. Providing for our family is their main goal and I think both of our husbands are doing their best:-) Chin up- you will look back in a couple months (or 5;-)) and realize the Lord led you there! Promise!

Mandi said...

I totally understand how you feel about change. Change is so hard! I always accept change very unwillingly. And it usually turns out to be a good thing...you always have friends though. Seriously, you are so good at making friends because you are such a great, fun, beautiful, amazing, funny, easy to talk with, .... person to be around.

Amber said...

You can do this! J was pushing for a move when we got back together, and I was terrified. We just moved half hour away, but it feels like much longer. However, it gave us a new area to explore. This will be awesome for you and Eric!

Will you still be working at the hair salon after the move?

Tedi Palmer said...

I'm so sorry to hear you are moving! I just barely got around to reading this post, and I found out today in church that you are leaving! :( I will definitely miss you!

P! said...

Love you, Courtney! I hope this all works out in a breeze for you... I know the feeling all too well of how stressful it is, but we can go through it together! Let me know if you need to talk at any time.

Emma said...

Good luck with everything!! I hope the process is not too stressful for you. Hopefully (and without a doubt) you will make new friends and keep the old ones, too. :) I am sad for you that you have to go through such a huge change...I couldn't imagine, but it is sweet you are thinking of your husband also...that says so much about you. Change is hard, period. Thinking of you!<3

oomph. said...

with the love you guys have for each other, you will get thru this!! good luck with the move.

[oomph.]