1- I never back down. Mia likes boundaries. All kids like boundaries. And they looooove to test the boundaries! Mia doesn't always understand why I'm telling her no but she has to trust that I'm saying it for a good reason. Sometimes she doesn't wanna hear it, and I don't blame her! I know I don't like being told no! But when I say no, I mean no, and that's something she's gotta learn! The waterworks (and screeching at the top of her lungs, gotta love it!) in the privacy of our own home, or in public (kill me!) are not going to change my answer. The quicker she learns our boundaries, the easier life will (hopefully) be! With that being said, I really pay attention to what I'm saying no to. It's important to let Mia explore, discover and just be a toddler while she's learning her boundaries :) So I really do my best to say no when it matters most, instead of saying no because I don't want to put in the extra effort to give her what she's asking for, or just because it sounds good. Yes, I just admitted how lazy I like to be :)
2- I let her cry. Sometimes a girl just needs to cry! I know I'm guilty of busting out the ugly cry every once in awhile... so maybe Mia needs that release as well?
2- I ignore her. Eric really fails in the ignoring department but hot dang, I am good at ignoring Mia's cries! When she's throwing a fit just for the sake of throwing a fit, I can let it go on and on without my blood pressure or body temperatures raising, ha ha! But I feel like this goes hand in hand with my #2. After letting Mia cry it out for a minute or two (she doesn't need long!) I gather her in my arms and hold her close so that she knows I still love her.
4- I distract her. The main cause for Mia's tantrums these days is because she wants all. the. toys. when she's playing with friends. This whole teaching-Mia-to-share-thing is the biggest pain in my rear! Even though I'm convinced she has no idea what I'm telling her when I say, " he had that first, Mia. Find something else to play with" or "you can't have both of the buckets. Give one to your friend" as she screams when I take it away to share with friends. But it's my job to teach her to share so I'll keep doing it... and as I say the words I'm shoving new toys in her face or hands so that she will (hopefully) quickly ditch the tantrum and continue playing happily!
I'm not really sure if my "genius" ways of handling her tantrums are the best I can do for her, but I truly am trying my best! Hopefully it pays off in the end :)
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