Wednesday, April 10, 2013

one of a kind...

While growing up I would always day dream about my marriage. I didn't dream about my actual wedding, I guess I'm not one of those girls. I mean seriously.... Eric is the one that picked our wedding colors, ha ha! I always dreamed about the man, the adventures we'd share, and the never-ending-sappy love story that would be ours. We'd live an extravagant life, enjoy the same hobbies, and fighting would be a foreign concept to us because our love would be perfect (ha ha)!


Marrying Eric is the best decision I ever made! But it didn't take long to realize that our marriage was not going to totally be what I'd dreamed of as a little girl :) For example, I'm pretty sure the honeymoon stage ended.... when our honeymoon ended, ha ha! Combining two different personalities and upbringing's under one roof and there's bound to be some disagreements. Add in some sleep deprivation and things get a bit more heated, ha! I learned real fast that compromise is an important word in any marriage, especially ours.


As much as I'd love to be one of those couples that work out together, Eric prefers to work out solo. He hates the lake, and I basically spent every summer at the lake and every winter dreaming about being at the lake. It's every girls dream to come home one day to a husband telling you to pack your bags because he's surprising you with an amazing vacation! But Eric doesn't plan vacations and he definitely gets too excited to keep a secret like that! But when we first were married, Eric told me he didn't like to travel and he thought vacations were a waste of money. Now we try to take one vacation a year!
I don't bake for my husband. I'm a nagger for a wife, which drives me crazy and I promise I'm working on that! I don't care to learn how to work on cars with him. But Eric totally plans to put a recliner in the garage so that I can relax and read while he and the kids (assuming Mia gets siblings, ha) work on his hot rods.
If we are irritated with each other, we don't hide it very well (our poor family and friends!) We definitely don't cook together. But we love to dance! In fact, if we could ever find the time, Eric would totally take a ballroom dance class with me. I don't think there could be anything sexier than dancing like that together :)


I guess what I'm trying to say is that we hear the good and bad (but mostly good) about other marriages and it's easy to compare your own marriage. But every relationship is one of a kind. What matters most is that Eric and I put everything we have into us. We never stop trying 100% to have the best possible marriage. I gave Eric my whole heart, and I never want to stop giving to our relationship. Even though we don't have that picture-perfect marriage, what we have is perfect for us! I love my life with my husband and daughter, I wouldn't give it up for the world! Even during our toughest moments, I'm so grateful that we are in this together. From here to eternity!

Image via the talented Courtney

37 comments:

Adrienne said...

Sigh.. I just got the chills!!!!!!

This is such a sweet blog!

You are so right!

Marriage is a lot of work but when you are married to the right person, then everything will work out.

I love that you guys want to take ballroom classes!!! I want to do that. The hubby has some moves... Me? Not so much. :D

Care said...

Beautifully put. Love your wedding pictures, so darling and romantic! Saving that marriage quote!

Courtney Gordon said...

Amen lady! I love how you paint a picture of your lives together with all it's imperfections, because marriage is NOT perfect because people are NOT perfect.

It takes hard work, compromise, team work and dedication to stick together in a marriage and love every part of each other, even the bad parts.

And it's good to not like all the same things or like doing things together like baking, cooking, because you have things you do like to do together like dancing.

And above all, you have love and respect for one another and you acknowledge that to each other, which is what matters most.

Thanks for this post. Truly inspiring.

A+J said...

I love the honesty in this post. Love is a constant every day choice. No marriage is ever perfect all of the time. Mine sure isn't. But it's that constant desire to work on it that makes it the best it can be.
xoxo-Amanda

P!nky said...

Awwwwwww what a sweet sweet story. Thank you for laying out the goods and the bads. There is so much pressure to be the perfect wife in this world, but really everyone is imperfect, it's the way we fit together that's perfect.

<3 y'all!

Dee Stephens said...

YAY for you being honest. I was older when I got married(34), and had a 4-year relationship before then.
So, I KNEW what I wanted and when I met Brad I told him what I wanted and what I expected so we truly knew what we were getting.
HA!! I told him upfront that if we were to ever get married I expected to go snow skiing every year.
Vacations(growing up we didn't have the $$ to go on them) are a big thing to me and he knows and it all game for them now.
I agree, every marriage is different.

Jessie said...

Oh, how I love this post! Just what I needed to hear today. Thanks for the honesty about marriage not being perfect but just right for the two of you. Here's to eternity!

Emma Frances said...

You're the best! In the blogging world it so often feelsike everyone else's marriage is perfect. Even though we can tell ourselves it's not true it's nice to hear the real stuff every once in a while! Thanks for sharing!! And I feel like I can relate to so many of these things! I did not realize how hard two different upbringings would be to mesh!

Stephanie N. said...

So beautiful! The thing about marriage is that it's NOT perfect, but making it it work for you and yours -- that's what it's all about. Love the honesty. And the pictures - GORGEOUS! :) Happy Wednesday!

Leslee said...

I Love Conference Time! And the Quotes that come from it!! :) Way to be Girl!! Thanks for sharing and being so truthful. I think it's time I do a post dedicated to my Hubby. I often spend all my blog time up on our little boy (not a bad thing) but my hubby deserves so Blog lovin :)

Pamela said...

PERFECT! Love everything you said! B & I are similar to you two. We're a real couple, with real problems. We don't always like the same things or agree. That's life! At the end of the day, we love each other & love our life together, & that's all that matters!

Amy @ A Glimpse of the Gouglers said...

This post is so perfect and I completely know what you mean! I feel like my marriage is similar in that were far from perfect and its not exactly what I expected but it's just right for us! Oh and I love that quote. It's beautiful and perfect for today because it's actually my hubby and I's 3rd anniversary today!

Janna Renee said...

I LOVE your marriage and the two of you together. I know that you guys have the forever kind of love, and that you compliment each other. I used to nag, but I said "heck no!" and stopped. I did NOT want to be that kind of wife. It also helped that I read "The Proper Care And Feeding Of Husbands", that book is a wealth of knowledge. Will told me that he didn't "do vacations" when we were dating, and I told him he better start or we wouldn't work! Now he loves them just as much as I do ;)

Purposely at Home said...

what a sweet and amazing post, courtney. love the pictures and that quote is just perfect. :)

hope you're having a happy day.

xo
purposelyathome.blogspot.com

Rachael said...

Stopping by because I wanted to thank you for leaving a comment on my blog! I'm so glad to have found yours and read this post first- your feelings about working hard on your marriage totally echo mine. I'm not married (yet) but I've been with my man for 7 years and we've weathered many storms and I realized early on that there is no such thing as a perfect relationship, haha! We don't love all of the same things either, but that's ok because we always make sure to save quality time for one another doing the things we do love together. I am guilty of being a nag too (and working on it) but we all have good days and bad days. Thank you for sharing so honestly!

Lindsay said...

I love this post! It's so very, very true. My husband and I started dating at 15 and had EVERYTHING in common. Everything! After all, when you're 15, what responsibilities do you have?! He was going to be a rockstar and I was going to be a writer and that was it. We liked the same music, spent weekends at concerts and watching our favorite movies. But having grown up together, things change. We no longer like the same music. He's an accountant and hasn't touched a guitar in, oh, five years. I'm a stay-at-home mom who turns our house into an art classroom. He loves to watch CNN and read the newspaper and I love to give into stupid reality television shows. But life and marriage are TOTALLY about compromise and learning to love the differences you share as well as the common interests!

Such a sweet post. (And I'm a total nag, too. Haha.)

Allison said...

Love your honesty friend. And that quote is so true...people's view of marriage is so backwards!

Rachel said...

Yes, sometimes I think about how many differences and different preferences there are between me and Angel and I wonder how in the world we make it work...but even with the differences, it really does work out well! Because we focus on what we can do and enjoy together. And man--I love ballroom dancing with my husband, too!

Hanna Lei said...

This is such a sweet post :) Your wedding pictures are beautiful.

Amanda said...

I love your honesty & the fact that you aren't trying to sugar coat anything :) it's beautiful.

Ashley said...

This was so beautiful, Courtney. I also dream of the man I'll marry one day. I pray God is writing our love story and will allow us to meet when the timing is right.

Carlie said...

Loved that quote from conference. I'm glad you love your little family so much! You all are great! =)

Samara said...

I love this post :) My husband sent me an email saying something very similar today- we do not really have similar interests however what we have is perfect in all its imperfections :)

alesha said...

So good. It is soo so important to not compare your marriage to someone else's! That's something I keep reminding myself of :)

Kelly {Sparkles and Shoes} said...

These photos are ABSOLUTELY stunning!

xx
Kelly
Sparkles and Shoes

Shelley said...

Love it!! Represent, girl!!

meme-and-he said...

such a beautiful post, and so thankful you are able to appreciate the gift that God gave YOU and not compare to others. It is easy to do, but important to fight through that.

Chelsea said...

LOVE this post! We all have high expectations for our marriages but reality is so much better! You captured that message beautifully!

Alexis Kaye said...

Love this! I wish more people were just real about life, haha!

Dinah Gacon said...

AMEN GIRL!!!!! My hubby's name is also Eric ;-) Everything you described is absolutely perfect. Marriage is definitely not a fairy tale like we imagined as kids but living inperfectly with your spouse is the way to go...taking the good and the bad and embracing it because that is pure commitment!!!!

Your wedding photos are so gorgeous lady!!!

xo Dinah @ sunshine super glam

Kimberly Bonham said...

We have a picture JUST like that first one! These are so beautiful!

ajs {of MN} said...

i love this post. although marriage isn't picture perfect its "couple" perfect! we all have our ups and downs- its 100% normal!

Shio Waline said...

I love this post!! And that quote, I remember hearing it during conference and thinking how much I loved it! I am def gonna have to read/listen to that talk again, it was a great one and wonderful reminders of what a great marriage takes :) Thanks for sharing this post!

xo,
Shio

Kaara A said...

hi, Courtney!
thanks so much for stopping by my little blog :)
I love that you tell it like it is, that relationships aren't perfect, though many bloggers tend to portray it like that. It's refreshing. And I can feel your dedication which is so wonderful! You were a beautiful bride and your family is so adorable!
xo- Kaara @ In the Kitch with Kaara

Mariette VandenMunckhof-Vedder said...

Dearest Courtney,
You are a no-nonsense person and you tell it like it is. No honey around the mouth for making things look sweeter as they are. Life is never easy and together we can do it. Love also the mention of Marriage being a gift from God in the last image. That's it and it does help us going through the valleys of life. They sure come our way, in disease or sorrow and together we will stand them.
You are a beautiful young wife and Mama and yes, one day you might be antiquing together... Who knows?!
Hugs to you,
Mariette

Robin said...

This is a very sweet post! I think one thing people don't understand about marriage is that it is a marriage, not just a wedding - you have to find joy in the simple, everyday things (like doing the grocery shopping together).

Hilary said...

I'm a nagger, too, and I hate it! I get it from my mom, lol.

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